And here is the D'var Torah I delivered this past Saturday, September 6, the 11th of Elul 5774:
Embrace Elul
I’ve never, ever been good with this time of year.
There’s something about the way the weather changes and the
smells shift; the vision of children heading off to their first days of a new
school year.
There’s something about the transition from the heat-ridden,
dog days of August to the steadier, intense pace of September. Summer’s over,
fall has turned its head. And here we
are, preparing for a new year.
I’ve never been good with this time of year … never in my
entire life … and when my mother comes for the High Holidays she can tell you
stories about just how excited I was to be going back to school each fall.
I would like to think that it wasn’t just about the
overwhelming nervousness with which I approached a new school year, or the
anxiety of a new teacher, new classroom, or new expectations.
I’d like to think that at some point, long before I ever articulated
a desire to become a rabbi, my body knew that I was supposed to get utsy and unsettled at this time of year.
My Jewish soul – my neshama – knew
long before my intellect did.
Because this time of year – the Hebrew month of Elul – is a time in which we begin
preparing ourselves – mind, body, and soul – for the High Holy Days … that rapidly
approaching period of intense retrospection, reflection, and renewal.
Elul is our warm
up; our soul stretch … it is our chance to look back before we look forward.
Elul – the month
in which we now find ourselves … is a chance for us to take stock of our souls
and our choices. And that’s not an easy thing to do.
And yet … for some of us, that shift is intrinsic and
natural. Whether we are intellectually ready for the season … or not … our
bodies and our souls are.
The process of teshuvah
begins now, in these days leading up to Rosh Hashanah. Teshuvah encourages us to make repairs to our relationships, to ask
others to forgive us, and to forgive ourselves
for the wrongs we have committed. Teshuvah
requires that we turn; that we physically
turn to focus our gaze on the past … to look back on a year in which we
were not perfect; a year in which we made mistakes.
It’s a chance for us to think about relationships that are
now broken, losses we have incurred, friendships in need of repair … and things
we have said that we cannot take back.
And that’s difficult. It is so difficult.
When I look back on the last twelve months of my life I am
astounded by what I see … and by what I remember! A year ago I was beginning
the rabbinic search process, uncertain of where my husband and I would land.
The stress and the tension that placed on us and our new marriage … and our
relationships with others … was immense, and it went deep.
As hard as we tried to navigate that process with integrity
and kindness, there were moments when the uncertainty of it all got the better
of us; when we said things to one another and to our families out of fear and
anxiety.
We are human, after all.
I feel grateful every single day that I was given the
opportunity to serve this phenomenal congregation … and we could not be happier
settling into a life here in Seattle. And we know our families and all our
loved ones back in LA are thrilled for us … and happy to see us happy.
But we know that the road here was not easy … because no
road towards change is ever easy.
Looking back on the past twelve months, I see and know and feel
the teshuvah that I must do – for my
soul, and for my relationships. And … I know NOW that I know things today that
I did not know then.
But that’s the beauty of being alive, of being human … isn’t
it? Our flawed perfections, our minor tears. The scars and stories we bring to
each day help us navigate this bizarre world of impermanence … and help us
learn how to hit the “refresh” button and begin again; begin anew.
As we head into these next three weeks leading up to Rosh
Hashanah, I encourage all of us to embrace this month in which we find
ourselves; the spiritual warm-up that is Elul.
Let us embrace the utziness that may
be brewing inside us, pushing us to reflect and let us not be afraid to look
back on the path that led us here.
Let us be unafraid to let go of what we hold onto.
There are a number of ways to help guide us in that process:
1.
You could read a book! The one I’m slowly making
my way through right now is This is Real
and You are Completely Unprepared, by Alan Lew. Find yourself immersed in a
book that will make you think; that will push you to turn and look back at the
past year and, hopefully, think about your place in the universe.
2.
You can make a “teshuvah plan” for yourself and your loved ones, which could take
the form of going back through the year and thinking about its various tough
moments … and then reaching out to those relationships that could use a little
bit of repair.
3.
You can sign up for “Jewels of Elul,” a daily
reflection piece penned by an individual … it will go straight to your inbox –
sign up at jewelsofelul.com … or Reboot’s 10Q … reboot.org … or any number of
online experiments aimed at reminding us to reflect each day.
4.
You can visit the graves of those on whose
shoulders we stand … as Elul is
traditionally a time when we visit the graves of our loved ones, whether to pay
our respects or ask forgiveness
5.
You can wake up each morning and ask yourself, how do I make today better than yesterday?
How can I greet the world with a little more kindness, more compassion? How can
I feed my soul and nourish the souls of others?
Finally, you can listen … for the sound of the shofar,
audible or internal, calling us to attention, pushing us to act … encouraging
us all to begin that difficult process of reflection … so that we may enter
5775 as the people we wish to be.
Shabbat Shalom.